Social media loves a relationship test. From the colour wars deciphering compatibility to the ketchup-or-mustard debate on commitment, these online quizzes offer a bite-sized glimpse into the complexities of love. The latest trend after the orange peel theory? The “Husband Test” on TikTok, where women call their boyfriends “husband” and film their reactions.
The goal? To gauge a man’s seriousness by his response. A playful correction is seen as a green flag, while confusion or offense suggests a red one. But experts warn against such snap judgments.
Ekta DB, mental health professional and relationship coach, warned against making sweeping generalisations about your partner based on tests like this. “Maybe they love you dearly but they’re not ready for a commitment? Maybe they’ve already planned towards a commitment like this but don’t want you to know yet. Maybe they’re thinking about something else entirely at the moment. The reasons abound.”
Why do we flock to these love tests?
There’s a reason these tests go viral. They tap into a universal desire for validation. We crave external signs of our partner’s love and commitment, said Ekta. However, she warned that a single reaction, caught on camera and amplified by online commentary, doesn’t tell the whole story.
Effective communication, shared values, and mutual respect are far more important indicators of a healthy relationship than a viral challenge. (file)
Women are prone to falling prey to these trends, Ekta explained. “They’re seeking safety from their partners. Women are designed in a way that they value trust, communication, security and assurance.”
The popularity of these trends reveals a deeper yearning for clear-cut answers in messy relationships. Ekta added that this can be a Catch-22 situation. “Relationships nowadays are non-committal, at least to begin with, and especially for Gen Z. This behaviour signifies you’re looking for clarity. And to get that, it would be better to just ask your partner directly.”
Love is full of gray areas. Effective communication, shared values, and mutual respect are far more important indicators of a healthy relationship than a viral challenge.
Instead of social media tests, honest conversations are a far better approach. Talk to your partner about your needs and expectations. Open communication builds trust and strengthens your bond, Ekta said.
Relationships take work. Don’t get caught up in chasing online trends for confirmation. Focus on building a strong foundation through open communication, shared experiences, and mutual respect. Those are the real signs of a love that will last.
